(This video is recorded from a Facebook LIVE session)


Death is a part of life. Physical or emotional death. When it comes to grieving those we’ve lost, no one teaches you how to do that. And somehow, we started learning that grief is weak. 


“In avoiding our sadness we avoid our lives. Learning from our sadness can bear great fruit, and avoiding it can have hidden costs. Our choice is between feeling the sharp pains of self-discovery or enduring the dull ache of unconsciousness that will last for the rest of our lives.” – Marianne Williamson


Grief can mean the fear of the disconnect. What are you really grieving? Is it the loss of the companionship? The life experiences you thought you would have with someone? There is a really beautiful, holistic way to add gentleness back to self discovery through grief.  

4 ways to add gentleness to the grieving process:

1. Be present

Give yourself permission to feel it – sit in it. Feelings are sensations in the body, not thoughts.

2. Honor the grief

Acknowledge it’s existence. Don’t pretend it’s not there. 

3. Release the perfection

Grief is a messy and sometimes confusing process.

4. Let go of the time limit

The psyche is like an immune system. When it gets hurt, bruised, or sick, it takes a while to hear that. We cannot rush this process.


Acceptance doesn’t mean graduating and being done with it. You don’t one day get over it. It will hit you in time years later. Know that can create good from it. Just remember to always add a dose of gentleness.


I’ve created a recipe using my favorite essential oils for each stage of grief in a beautiful downloadable PDF. 

Locked in grief:

4 drops balance

4 drops wild orange

2 drops lavender

2 drops melissa

Apply to wrists, over the heart, on the throat, on the back of the neck, and on lower back 3 times a day for as long as needed.



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