On this episode join Mary and her special guest, Juan Santos. Juan is a professional counselor and author who specializes in helping people go from Stuck to deeply connected in their relationships. He utilizes a creative off the book approach when helping people overcome challenges and live their best life. Juan is the owner of Santos Counseling LLC, a family owned counseling practice in Greensboro, NC. When he is not working, Mr. Santos loves to spend time with his family and loved ones. He enjoys the outdoors and family adventures with his wife and two kids.
Over the course of time changes will occur in intimate relationships. It can be hard to know when to put in the hard work to strengthen the relationship and when it’s time to walk away.
We often build a life with our partner but we are also building our own independent life at the same time. Life changes… kids leaving home, big moves, loss… puts us in a place where we need to shift our perspective. To not see an ending, but to see an opportunity for growth. It can be a bit awkward but it’t an opportunity to get to know our partner all over again. We can’t always be sure that it will work out, but we need to show up with a willingness to do independent work and to show up with a spirit of optimism.
Even in a young relationship changes can occur in us as individuals. There are seasons in our relationship as people inevitably change. We often begin our relationship with a deep appreciation for what makes our partner different from us. In hard times those same things we appreciate are often the things that frustrate us about are partner. In these moments we can choose to remember when and why we initially loved those traits in our partner.
We need a willingness to let go. Let go of old ideas. Let go of old patterns. Let go of cultural norms. Let go of unhealthy attachment patterns. Let go of old ideas about how relationships should be. And be open to allowing our partner to change and grow. Allow space for healing. And allow ourselves to see our relationships with a fresh new lens and perspective.
ON THIS EPISODE WE WILL DISCUSS…
-Getting back to a place of intimacy with your partner
-Allowing the space for your partner to change
-The importance of doing independent work first
-Learning how to appreciate the differences in your partner
-The different seasons of relationships
-How to know when to walk away
-And much more!
Each month will be a deep dive into a topic that supports you on your journey to living more fully alive. October’s topic will be on Necessary Endings.
Juan’s Website: http://santoscounseling.com/
Juan’s Instagram: http://instagram.com/santos_counseling/
Juan’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/SantosCounseling
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